Monthly Archives: May 2017

Separation trauma


On Saturday, December 3, 1988 Pat wrote after a three day stay in Toronto General for an operation and on learning of my two sleepless nights: “I think we’ve reached the point in our marriage when separation is a trauma.” Continue reading

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My Greatest Fear!


Two years after his wife’s death, Vanauken writes: “…I found that my tears were dried. The grief had passed…. There was no sense of Davy’s being there with me, nor any sense that she was in the wind…. There were no more dreams…. This – the disappearance of the sense of the beloved’s presence and, therefore, the end of tears – this is the Second Death.” This “Second Death” is the point of the title of his book, “A Severe Mercy; a story of faith, tragedy, and triumph.”
I fear this severe mercy above all else. C. S. Lewis, after his experience of Joy’s presence, wrote in “A Grief observed”, “It was quite incredibly unemotional. Just the impression of her mind momentarily facing my own…. Continue reading

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One in Marriage for all eternity


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Grief strengthens faith


In Quiet Love, I wrote the following: “I have lost the ability to enjoy all the things we enjoyed together; the ability to enjoy every day’s most common loves by sun or candle light. Now I listen to a piece … Continue reading

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