Marriage as I understand it

In Christianity there is a third person that precedes out of a marriage of soulmates. It mirrors the Trinity’s Holy Ghost – might even be the Holy Ghost. It is the enabling love of the soulmates. It is the entity joining the Lover and the Beloved in the “Song of Solomon” and the “abler Soul” in John Donne’s poetry. It transforms the very being of each partner’s soul. It is how God has made the married two one. Only this third entity proceeding from true love can lead to the real and indissoluble union of two lives into one; and only of it does holy scripture say; ‘They shall be one flesh’; that is, shall become One Real Being.

Rumi writes:

“Whenever two are linked this way, there comes another

From the unseen world.…

But a third does come, when two unite in love

…. The intense qualities born

Of such joining appear in the spiritual world.”


Ladislaus Boros in “God is Love” writes:

“When two people say “we” because love has made them we in reality, a new sphere of existence is created. The whole world takes on a new dimension. The new sphere of existence is not simply “already there”; it comes into existence as a function of the free self-giving of one person to another.”


Rumi writes:

“What is the body? That shadow of a shadow

of your love, that somehow contains the entire universe.”

If you would know God, know love and yourself, for God is within you; the entire universe is within you. It is God knowing, being aware of himself. Patricia and I were lucky enough to discover that quiet, intense love that is basic to life itself. We had the eyes to see and the words to tell the truths that are most real to each other.  Pat and I were soulmates. This kind of relationship is marked by an intense connection between two people, two souls. Two people just “get each other” — they finish each other’s sentences, are best friends, and have adopted the us against the world mentality, and a Us and God outlook. It feels like we are two pieces of a puzzle fitting perfectly together. In the six months from our first date to our marriage we found each other’s souls, and bonded and an abler soul was created. We were each other’s “beloved.” The sacrament of marriage bound our two souls into a Trinity – one entity, three persons. I still feel that haunting familiarity – our two souls remain bonded even after her death. Love is stronger than Death!

About thebows99krug

Hi, I am Eric, a retired librarian. I was born in St. Michael's Hospital, Toronto and raised in the downtown area north of the Art Gallery, south of the University of Toronto. I went to Orde Street Public School, Harbord C.I., University College at the UofT and the UofT's Faculty of Library and Information Science. I meet my wife Patricia at FLIS; our first date was on November 15, 1968. We were engaged February 14, 1969 and married on June 21, 1969. Our family includes son, James; daughter-in-law, Erin; (both writers), grand-daughters, Vivian and Eleanor; and Sonic, a very friendly ginger tabby. My beloved wife died January 7, 2017 and our 19 year old cat Pooka died January 8, 2017. I would like to hear from any other class of '63 alumni of Harbord C.I. and class of '67 alumni of UofT's University College.
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