Jesus teaches that man and wife are to become “one flesh” (Matthew 19:6) When we marry two souls become one. A presence is formed in each other. Each feel that they can face anything as long as the other is present. That presence in each other grows stronger as the marriage ages. Even death does not part that presence, what God has joined together only God can pull apart.
That emptiness you feel around your heart when your beloved dies is not emptiness. It is your departing spouse expanding around your heart. She is moving into the infinite just beyond the finite. Remember the infinite is often describe as a void, an emptiness. She is still One with you but is now also One with the infinite beyond time and space. She sees everything she knows all of you.
She is everywhere, transformed into pure spirit to enter the divine realm. Our two hearts are still united in the new form of our One. Her physical life and death have become mystical life and love. Her soul and spirit have become One. It is the beginning of what C. S. Lewis named to his friend Sheldon Vanauken, “God and Us.” Your beloved has merely gone before to help you to lay down your self, your individuality, your ego, to become One with her in God. There are many states of consciousness in the Kingdom of Heaven. She has laid down her ego to be One with you and God in the Kingdom of Heaven within you! “God and Us” forever.
Believe! Accept nothing less than her presence, recognize her presence within you. This is the good news Christ was teaching. Yes, there is pure love. God is Love. Trust in Him!
This is what Elizabeth Barrett Browning meant when she wrote: “I love thee to the level of every day’s most quiet need by sun and candle-light. I love thee freely, as men strive for right. … I love thee with a love I seemed to lose with my lost saints. I love thee with the breath, Smiles, tears, of all my life; and, if God choose, I shall but love thee better after death.”