Love and Marriage and Grief


Love needs an object; only saints can learn to love without an object. At first, we love only ourselves and our care giver; some never get past this aggressive self love. Most people need another human being, lover, friend, sibling, child, to give love its meaning, to keep themselves both sane and happy, to love God. As the Bible says, “He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.” (1 John 4:8) In marriage two become One, serving as each other’s reason to keep putting one foot in front of the other in a hopeful and happy way. Our spouse connects us to our hearts, our minds and each other. It is Love that grounds us in one another and God. Love teaches us to give ourselves totally. Again, if you don’t love you cannot know God. The Death of a loved one can throw a spanner in the works. The tendency is to cling to the memories of your beloved as if she has gone somewhere and you have lost her. She has gone to God and God is within you. She is also still within you because she is in God. We are still One and still Love. Love is stronger than Death. So as “37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’[a] 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” (Matthew 22:37-40.)

About thebows99krug

Hi, I am Eric, a retired librarian. I was born in St. Michael's Hospital, Toronto and raised in the downtown area north of the Art Gallery, south of the University of Toronto. I went to Orde Street Public School, Harbord C.I., University College at the UofT and the UofT's Faculty of Library and Information Science. I meet my wife Patricia at FLIS; our first date was on November 15, 1968. We were engaged February 14, 1969 and married on June 21, 1969. Our family includes son, James; daughter-in-law, Erin; (both writers), grand-daughters, Vivian and Eleanor; and Sonic, a very friendly ginger tabby. My beloved wife died January 7, 2017 and our 19 year old cat Pooka died January 8, 2017. I would like to hear from any other class of '63 alumni of Harbord C.I. and class of '67 alumni of UofT's University College.
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