“Why weepest thou?” [John 20:15] These words are not only to Mary but to each of us who have experienced a great loss. Jesus who is love, sees you too in your loss and pain. Turn to him in your pain and know that you will see your loved one again in him who will make you whole again. Remember that he first made you one and “what God has joined together, let not man separate.” [Mark 10:9]
The problem is my beloved Patricia is while I am just beginning. Like all married couples we were united as one with God; redeemed through marriage. Pat and I were united into One to receive each other into ourselves, to bathe in it, to become part of God. We are still One though on opposite sides of the door for now. Death opens the door for us to join again; she is waiting on the other side of the door. All the pages of the New Testament, the Good News says, God willing, we will rejoin on her side of the door. I am constantly reminded that we marry to immortality!
One of the reasons we married is we moved each other to thoughts of God. We began a journey to C.S. Lewis’ God and us; some special part of us now felt we were made whole. God is love. Love doesn’t just integrate us He shows us that the essential part of us wasn’t really missing it had simply been asleep until we found each other.