God and Us!


Life is NOT meant to be about the pursuit of happiness; it is about becoming! Life, our life, is not ended, it is merely changed. Life is about learning to love and die in and with God. God is REALITY! Everything will be alright in the end. If it isn’t then it is not the end and you continue in and with God. We are all saved and forgiven in spite of ourselves; that is what Christ was (is) all about. Life is not ended, it is merely changed!
Adam and Eve are NOT just one man and one woman; they are all men and all women here and now united as One. They are one in and with God and us, partakers of the heavenly kingdom. They are every couple united in marriage into one by God. God in Christ redeemed us in the all inclusive sweep of Divine Love when Christ was born as Jesus. Jesus was and is both GOD AND MAN! Personal worthiness, reward and punishment are all illusion, Jesus gives us a new way of living with each other, and that new way centers on love and grace. Hell by definition is the absence of God. If God is everywhere then there can be no Hell. Christ showed those in Hell the truth that God is everywhere. We have ears to hear and eyes to see God is everywhere.
Christ is the Light in our darkness. Light is energy. We are all energy. Resurrection is going to the Father and coming back as Light – a light with form and shape and person. We awake changed. We become the burning bush, one with the eternal “I am what I am”. Christ said, ” Believe in the light so that you also may become children of the light.” (John 12:16) As we say in the Communion: ” …grant that we may ever hereafter Serve and please thee in newness of life, to the honour and glory of thy Name; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.”

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Looking for her presence


Had a revelation last night during the “hour of the wolf” – that period in the night between 3:00 and 6:00 am when you awaken and can’t get back to sleep. A nightmare awoke me – Pat had left me and I couldn’t find her! I was now wide awake in great fear. Suddenly dreaming while still awake. Pat and I were together again doing the Vulcan mind meld (yes we are Star Trek fans). “My mind to your mind, your mind to my mind. We are one in God forever.” Not only in my dreams; she and I are One in heart, soul, mind and God! Our strength is in this truth. Pat is my mirror! If she withdraws, I am sad and empty or even angry and cannot get back to sleep. We know each other in and though each other’s minds; we know ourselves in each other as One in God. It is through Love that we understand each other. Pat’s presence in me is from God; only God can do such Oneness and bestow her presence in me. So I trust in God. As Fr Richard Rohr says, “Simply put, if death is not possible for the Christ, then it is not possible for anything that “shares in the divine nature” (2 Peter 1:4). God is by definition eternal, and God is Love (1 John 4:16), which is also eternal (1 Corinthians 13:13) and this same Love has been planted in our hearts (Romans 5:5, 8:9) by the Spirit dwelling within us.” Death and resurrection are where marriage leads us. Patricia Bow is reborn, resurrected as LIGHT! She is everywhere, all around me and within me. I can never lose her. Love is stronger than death and is forever. Two persons made one by God. And so she is found and I fall back to sleep!

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Marriage: civil vs sacramental


Most of the major religions have their own internal debates, frequently heated, over the status of same-sex unions. Some denominations have endorsed marriage for same-sex couples. Others have taken a friendly position toward these unions. Mainline Protestant denominations are divided on the issue, although some have taken negative positions. Apparently we Anglicans and Catholics are divided. Still other denominations and religions seem to be strongly opposed collectively. There is no single “religious” position on these unions in our Churches today. In Canada, under the law, religions are free to marry or not marry same-sex couples.
John Paul II wrote, “God created man and woman in such a way that through their bodies it would be self-evident to them that they are called to love, called to give themselves to one another” Holy Scripture affirms that man and woman were created for one another: “It is not good that the man should be alone.” “So they are no longer two, but one flesh.” However marriage is not about sexuality; marriage is about becoming one with each other and God.
The issue of how a secular state defines marriage has nothing to do with the Church or what is the Church’s area of focus and responsibility – the sacrament of marriage. The sacrament is a mystery that is regulated by the church’s internal system. The sacrament of marriage is not just a prayer during the wedding. It has a much deeper spiritual and religious meaning and much higher level of purpose than just couples expressing their love for each other in vows they often write themselves. The sacrament of matrimony is a couple becoming one in God.and vowing their love before God and to God.
As my priest said today, “God extends love and grace to all who are thirsty, not just to those who are deemed worthy.” Basically we are loved by God and equal in the eyes of God. It makes sense to me that the couple should be fully initiated into the faith and receive the graces from it. A Church marriage is sacramental, a civil marriage is not. The sacrament of Christian marriage involves a journey to God to becoming one with God and each other, to giving to and receive from each other. Their life becomes sacramental to the extent that the couple cooperates with God’s action in their life and see themselves as living “in Christ” and Christ living and acting in their relationship, attitudes and actions. In a sacramental marriage the couple begin their journey to C.S. Lewis’ “God and us.”
— June 21st, 2019 was the 50th anniversary of Patricia Bow and I marrying in St. Stephen’s in the Field Toronto and marriage has been on my mind all weekend.

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The answer to Why


“The other momentous phrase that Jesus repeated at the Last Supper is the phrase “for you”. In the accounts of Matthew, Mark and Luke — and in Paul’s too (1 Corinthians 11:24ff.) — Jesus says, my body “given for you,””broken for you,” and my blood “poured out for you, ” Anyone who has ever enjoyed lovemaking knows that the thrill comes not just from the physical sensation but from the other person’s desire to be specifically with you, to be naked for you, to delight in you, to pleasure you. You always want to say, “But why me?” And you hope the other says, “Because I love you!” It is the ultimate and very specific I-Thou experience of Martin Buber.” — page 135 Richard Rohr “The Universal Christ”

The answer to “why” in both marriage and life is Love. God is within both and loves you! The best love stories end in death; lovers do not fear death. Death is their final and complete surrender to each other. Lovers instinctively know that Love is forever and is stronger than Death. The answer is always “because I love you!”

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Love and Marriage and Grief


Love needs an object; only saints can learn to love without an object. At first, we love only ourselves and our care giver; some never get past this aggressive self love. Most people need another human being, lover, friend, sibling, child, to give love its meaning, to keep themselves both sane and happy, to love God. As the Bible says, “He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.” (1 John 4:8) In marriage two become One, serving as each other’s reason to keep putting one foot in front of the other in a hopeful and happy way. Our spouse connects us to our hearts, our minds and each other. It is Love that grounds us in one another and God. Love teaches us to give ourselves totally. Again, if you don’t love you cannot know God. The Death of a loved one can throw a spanner in the works. The tendency is to cling to the memories of your beloved as if she has gone somewhere and you have lost her. She has gone to God and God is within you. She is also still within you because she is in God. We are still One and still Love. Love is stronger than Death. So as “37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’[a] 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” (Matthew 22:37-40.)

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When soulmates marry


The secret of a good marriage is to love and to keep God and each other within the marriage, to live your faith and become persons fully in communion with each other and God. A good marriage is more than a series of events, it is life itself. You don’t measure it by where you have been or what you have done; it is two become one emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, financially, and in every other way. Even as one part of the body cares for the other body parts so each partner in the marriage is to care for the other. Marriage is created in God’s image – the trinity of God and us. In Matthew 19: 4-6, Jesus says as much:

And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

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Grief two years 4 months later.


In the early stages of grief we barely care about anything because the worst has happened. We walk in darkness. Eventually, if we believe, that empty hole around our heart is filled with the Presence of our beloved and we fill with Love again! But grief is forever (as is our love) and every so often we have a night where we walk in darkness and dream of abandonment and loss. You wake up shaken and full of doubt. That is when we need Psalm 23 the most. God is like a good shepherd who provides and cares for His sheep. Patricia Bow‘s words provide the solass I need, ” We ask nothing; we have all!” Yes we have need of nothing because our shepherd provides everything. We dwell in Love in the House of the Lord forever our cup runneth over!

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