Category Archives: Marriage

Grief and Emptiness


Consider the grief that lovers feel. It is emptiness, sorrel for your departed loved one, that hollow around your heart once filled to overflowing with her essential being. An absence where everything becomes essential, each sound distinct and bare, and … Continue reading

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When lovers kiss


“You love me royally, as I love you. Seated together in our garden Kingdom, Keeping up our silent conversation, Clothed in robes of joy of every hue. For us, our royal love has had no parallel: It rooted, grew, and … Continue reading

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Death and Grief – putting out the lamp because the dawn has come.


Pat in her journal beginning August 1st, 2015 describes feeling something that sounds a lot like the grief journey I have been on since her death: All the same, (and for several days now) I felt odd, at a loss, … Continue reading

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Pat’s Epiphany


In the gospels Christ teaches us to believe “all things are possible.”  Many Christians assume this means that if only we have enough faith we can fix anything, “ask and you will receive.” So, when a loved one is dying … Continue reading

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49 years married to Pat – words to tell our truths.


We knew right from the beginning that we were destined for each other. Just 12 hours after meeting her and asking her out (November 18, 1968) I asked her to marry me.  Twelve days after that she wrote me that … Continue reading

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Pat’s on God, Love and Religion


Pat was a very deep thinker and read extensively. She read Jacque Ellul (Anarchy and Christianity); Tom Harper (Life after Death); Arthur Schafer (The Death of Public Morality; a Civilization in Decline); Eric Kierans (Corporations Over All); David Brin (The … Continue reading

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The Wisdom of my beloved Patricia


Pat kept a book of excerpts from books that influenced her and comforted her. This excerpt from Tom Harper’s Heaven and Hell (1983) seems to speak to my Grief – the fear, worry and anxiety we feel in Grief. “The … Continue reading

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Thy Will be Done


I sometimes feel like I’m being punished for some sin I committed against God; especially when I can feel neither God nor Patricia within me – just the deep empty loneliness. Could it be I am being punished for loving … Continue reading

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Memory of things past or of things to come


Carl Jung said: “The dream is the small hidden door in the deepest and most intimate sanctum of the soul, which opens to that primeval cosmic night that was soul long before there was conscious ego and will be soul … Continue reading

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Love is everything! I will love Patricia forever!


Like both Sheldon Vanauken and C. S. Lewis I can’t imagine Agape or Eros coming twice. I’m still very much married to Patricia and still very much in love with her. I shall be forever. Patricia and I were lucky … Continue reading

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