I started reading Tom Harper’s ‘There is life after death’ his revision and expansion of ‘Life after death’ I had read years ago. Interesting that so often spouses that have an after-death experience and/or feel the presence of their departed, begin their account with the statement that they were “always very happy together.” They do not mention their love though you can see it in the way the experience is described. I believe great love is required to have such an experience. The other thing many of them have in common is they are usually awakened from a sound sleep. Such was the case with my first experience of Pat’s presence. I had stretched out on the living room couch planning to nap until the news came on. I fell into a sound sleep but soon felt someone standing bent over me and kissing me on the lips; it caused me to wake up and I clearly saw Pat. I tried to touch her and kiss back but the image started to fade and she was gone. I felt good about the experience and knew it was really her comforting me. I think she was forgiving me for being in another room not holding her hand when she departed. It was NOT a dream but a very real experience of life after death. I also think I can be sure that when I die she will be there holding my hand to help me across. Pat, I love you forever! Thank you.