“My departed spouse dwells in me and I dwell in her.” What are the implications? Let her presence come to the surface – let her be you and you be her. She lives – Love is stronger than Death.
When she appears to you in a dream as a very real presence, DO NOT wake up and try to touch her. Your awake mind drives her presence back into the maze of your daily thoughts and worries, back into the shadows of your mind. Accept her presence. It is enough to accept her presence as you did when she entered a room when she was alive. Her earthly body is gone – she is now within you visiting from your heart. Listen to your heart; she is very real there. Without her earthly body and the decay of the sickness that took her, she is infinitely more alive and real – the very image of God. She is assisting you to C. S. Lewis’ “God and US” – helping you on the journey to the divine. Freed from her earthly body and earthly senses she has “improved”. She loves, she still has hope and sadness, joy and fear but these feelings are stronger and have been clarified by the love of Christ.
Let her be there in your mind and dream. Share what she sees and hears and says. Give her your eyes to see and your ears to hear. Let her speak the truths that she wants you to hear. Feel her very real presence and reach out with her for the ends of being and the love you both have. Feel and accept her and God within you. Remember you are still one with her and God. Love the moment, enjoy the peace it is by far more real than anything that has gone before.
You must try to calm yourself and hold onto her presence. Above all try to see through her eyes and hear through her ears – to be one with her. In the words of Psalm 131
My heart is not proud, Lord,
my eyes are not haughty;
I do not concern myself with great matters
or things too wonderful for me.
2 But I have calmed and quieted myself,
I am like a weaned child with its mother;
like a weaned child I am content.
3 Israel, put your hope in the Lord
both now and forevermore.
You have to move beyond your own mind and merge with her mind, become one with her. Experience her presence as your own reality. Your mind to her mind; her mind to your mind; your mind is one mind. You have to break the tyranny of your earthly mind and logic. Empty “your” mind into her mind and experience the dream as your INTERNAL REALITY. Do NOT try to over think the dream presence; to intellectualize it; to dismiss it as a figment of your imagination. Fill yourself with her presence; go where she and the dream take you; experience the new her. Let the stream of the dream be her thoughts and let your own thoughts go. Love is forever.