Category Archives: Family

Assuring friends and family that I have chosen life and love.


Family and friends thank you for the concern. Please be assured I do not intend to take my own life. Pat crocked her finger at me before she died and said “don’t you dare even think about following me by … Continue reading

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Patricia and the Anglican Rosary


Looking back to 2015 – Pat did a lot of praying around my heart attack and operation – I found she was ahead of me religiously then and now. I found on her desktop machine, her folder on prayer and … Continue reading

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Heaven and Hell


A lot of people believe in Hell as the place where we go to be punished for our sins. They feel punishment is necessary. Why do they believe in the need for an eternity of punishment? There are only two … Continue reading

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Early diagnosis should have been possible. We needed more time.


I am pretty sure that a more experienced doctor (like our VERY good Dr. Lomb in Toronto) Would have caught both the signs of Pat’s pancreatic cancer and her early strokes (they were NOT migraines as she thought) in early … Continue reading

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Our forever home


I dreamt of our, Pat’s and my, forever home. As the dream started I was in the western highlands walking Lochaber. The surroundings looked just like Pat’s painting “…painted on a board at twenty…A fantasy, I thought. A dream landscape: … Continue reading

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Thoroughly modern Patricia A. Bow


Pat, as her siblings point out “was the quietest of the “magnificent seven”. She possessed a determined yet calm quality. She was an introverted person and hated being the centre of attention. Yes, she was very sensitive and a deep … Continue reading

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A dream of beloved spouse dying…


You don’t ever get over the loss of a beloved spouse; it will not all be resolved with time. Healthy adults tend to grieve for a long time. You begin to reconcile yourself to living with the grief and are … Continue reading

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Communication in Marriage


I was thinking about how Pat and I communicated. I realized a lot of it was not in words, we often communicated with a look, touch or thought across a crowded room as in Tai Chi class. I think that … Continue reading

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Blessed are those who mourn …


The thing about losing Pat after 48 years of marriage is that every feeling, thought and moment has been intertwined for so long that I no longer remember who I was before marrying her. I know I was a lonely … Continue reading

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“My beloved Eric will join me ”- re-awaking to Patricia


Our souls communicate with other souls naturally. When you meet your soulmate, you feel instant love as I did on that first date with Patricia. I felt there was something special between us. That is because we were tied together … Continue reading

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