Author Archives: thebows99krug

Everyone says that in the grief journey, holidays are the worst. Well I had a lovely Easter. Good Friday, James and I enjoyed Beethoven’s Missa Solemnis performed magnificently by the Grand Philharmonic Choir. Saturday was a good day too – … Continue reading →

It seems I am not getting through to many what I mean when I say I believe the death of a spouse is truly different from the loss of any other family member. I found that those who understood were … Continue reading →

Why do people worry when you speak, fantasise. or write about wanting to die. Easter, of all times of the year, is a time surely when it is permissible to want to die. Christ’s resurrection gave us all something to … Continue reading →

Patricia and I were two halves that together complete wholeness. Pat and I were the starting point in the sacrament of marriage where God joins two entities into one. When something is whole, it is unchanging and complete. So, when, … Continue reading →

Eventually C. S. Lewis accepted the presence of Joy, his departed wife, though he believed it was not the soul but her intellect. He speaks of the experience, “It was incredibly unemotional. Just the impression of her mind momentarily facing … Continue reading →

The writings on grief are filled with survivors blaming God for their loss and as a result abandoning their faith. Some religions try to comfort the bereaved by saying it was God’s will and there are some that say the … Continue reading →

C. S. Lewis’ fear that the real image of his wife, Joy, would be replaced by his memories of her changed by what he wanted her to have been or remembered her to have been without the parts that he … Continue reading →

Pat wrote, “Perhaps it is enough simply to believe the spirit does not died.”  We all have some doubts about life after death. I can’t imagine that there isn’t life after death but there is still that little nagging occasional … Continue reading →

Pat is at peace, that same love and peace of God also surrounds and uphold all of us, her family, and all who mourn. Neither death nor any created thing is able to separate us from the divine love we … Continue reading →

I am reading Vanauken’s “Under the Mercy” and am deeply moved and completely agree with his thoughts on marriage (the one-flesh union) which LOVE promises and points to. Marriage vows are NOT vows to each other but the vows are … Continue reading →